More on body shaming

/ranton

This is one of the few places I tend to differ from the "norm"...  I think we've gone too far to be accepting of everything.   If you've been reading this, and I commend you for doing so because I don't think anyone but me actually reads it, then you should be aware that I've struggled with my weight for most of my life.   I've gone from skinny to fat to skinny to fat etc... and I'm back to healthy...   I also started going bald as early as 21, yes that was disappointing, so I know a bit about these topics...

Yes I've met plenty of women who are only interested in people based on their body shape or even their hair, and yes, it was much more prevalent when I was younger.   No surprise to anyone I wasn't very popular with girls in high school.  However, I'll take a fair amount of that blame.   I didn't do a good job of making myself attractive and that is my fault.

Here's where I get upset about the body shaming thing.   If we all act like being obese, and yes I was obese, is ok, and there's nothing to say about it, or nobody is allowed to comment on it, then when people can't get a date they don't understand why.

Yes I'm aware there's a tiny percentage of people who can't lose weight, but again this is a fraction of the people who need to.   Go ahead, change my mind.   If that's not the case why is ozempic so fucking successful?   Most fat people are fat because they eat a lot of garbage food and spend all day sitting and staring at a computer monitor, or their phone, or their TV.

I learned some of this when I went to Europe for the first time as an adult.   I did a work trip 20 years ago and was amazed at the difference if portions and food quality as well as how Europeans seemed more active.   Granted I was primarily in the Netherlands, but they were just healthier.

Here's my advice for anyone who's being bullied because you're fat.   Use the anger to better yourself.  No, the people who shit on you are still crappy people, but they're going to help you make a better life for yourself.   You will feel better, you will be healthier, this will come out in your body language and you'll make a better impression on everyone else. 

Take it from personal experience.   Stop complaining that people are mean, yes people are mean, that's never going to change, but you can change.   Stop expecting everyone else to change for you and do it yourself.   That is how the world works.

You don't believe me?   Two years ago I couldn't stand for 20 minutes.   Going up or down a flight of stairs was extremely difficult and one month ago I completed a triathalon.   Tonight, weather permitting, I'm goign to run a 5k training run for a 4 mile race on July 4th.  I know my running pace might be mistaken for a turtle, so what.  Make fun of me, I don't fucking care.  I have two bad knees and a bad hip and I'm still more active than most people, hell I'm in better shape than most people and I feel great.  

Be the person you were born to be.

/rantoff

Oh and the cause for this was a CNN article saying it's bad to make fun of Trump's appearance.  Normally, I might agree except he brings this on himself.   I actually feel pity for him because he's clearly insecure about his appearance.   Honestly, he's old enough that he should have hit the "I don't give a fuck" moment in his life.  Instead he's still blathering on about his hand size....   Grow up Donald.